Attachment & Love
Sep 13, 2002, 10:03p
Attachment & Love:
What's the difference between attachment and love? This seems to be the major dilemma in any long-term relationship. I feel that I can "grow to love" almost anyone, but what that really means is that I grow to be attached to my partner. I think that one way to tell the difference between whether you are "in love" or "just attached" (whether one is more valuable/important than the other, I'm not so sure) is to see how you act when other people are around. If you can't stand being with your significant other with other people around, or you just get bored, than I think that you are just attached, not in love. It's easy to be totally into someone when you're the focus of their world, but when that focus is shifted away, you will only continue to stay interested if you are in love and you are truly compatible with the other person. So if you find yourself losing interest when the person is around their friends, trouble is brewing, I think.
Otherwise, I don't really know the difference between being in love and just being attached. I'll figure it out eventually, I hope.
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